Tuesday, January 14, 2014
This is a new year. Says who? Says the calendar. And this is a new me. Says who? Says a lot of us since Jan. 1, 2014.
The difference is a new year is automatic. A new me or a new you takes work. However, a new year provides us with the motivation to recreate or remake ourselves … to make some changes in our lives so we will be better people. But change takes work. Even when we are willing to change it doesn’t come easily.
Added to that is the fact that although many of us say we want to change we are not sure how we want to change. Very often we know the results we want to have, but we don’t know what changes to make in order to get those results.
I have heard people say they want to be more confident, or they want to be more patient, or they want to communicate better. But these kinds of changes are different from, “I want to lose weight.” If you want to lose weight you either have to find a way to consume less calories or burn more calories or a combination of both. But how do you become more confident or become more patient?
Let’s take becoming more patient. I had that discussion with some ladies on New Year’s Day. One of them explained that often she has had to pray and ask God to give her more patience during some difficult situations. The thing is this, the experience that made her pray for patience is the same activity that will strengthen her patience. The thing that irritated her is actually what will do good in her.
There is no way to develop patience except by going through situations that test your patience or stretch your patience. How you handle those situations determine whether you become more impatient or more patient. The same sun that makes some plants wilt makes others grow.
We can have similar experiences but we end up with different results because of how we respond to the situation. The point I am making is that change does not come easily and some changes are more problematic and challenging to achieve than others.
Despite that, I want to encourage you to use the advent of a new year to work on yourself so you can be better than you were before.
No matter who we might be, there is always room for improvement. None of us are perfect. We should identify an area where we desire improvement and begin to work at it.
Change isn’t easy or quick. As a matter of fact one of the common ingredient necessary for change of any kind is patience. It is said that often the person who wins is just the one who has been able to hold on the longest. As the Good Book says, “The race is not to the swift nor the battle to the strong but he that endureth to the end.”
I wish you much success and many blessings in 2014.
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