Tuesday, February 28, 2012
The best form of learning we can have is the kind for which we donít have to pay.
As a matter of fact, if I had to pay for all of my learning experiences I would be a homeless person and still be ignorant of some of the basics of life.
I learned from otherís mistakes. They paid the price for their mistakes, and I observed and learned from them.
It is a good idea to look around and see what people are doing that you should do to make your life better. By the same token you should look around and see what others are doing that you should not do or it will make your life miserable, unhappy or even tragic.
Most times we donít have to look too far. There are people around us that are succeeding and there are others who are just getting by, and then there are others who are failing by all standards.†††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† †
There are also others that we donít really know. We see them on our television screens, we read about them in our newspapers and magazines, we dance to their music, we sing their songs and many of them become a part of us, they become dear to us, although they donít even know that we exist. When they succeed we feel as if we have won. When they fail we feel as if we have suffered loss.
Sometimes we fight each other over them, even though they donít know us. But I believe there are ways we can benefit from these so-called celebrities that many of us seemingly would give our lives for. We can learn from them.††††††††††††††††††† †
One of the lessons we can learn is that visibility is not equal to success. Popularity is not the same as success. When you see people who have done well in the entertainment world, on the athletic field, or in the business world to the point where their names have become household words and yet their lives end in ruin you begin to ask the question, does popularity equal success?††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† †
We can learn from them that fame and fortune does not exclude you from difficulties, hardships, problems, temptations and of course bad decisions. Sometimes fame and fortune will create circumstances that will lead you into some of those situations.
We learn that many of the rich and the famous often make the same mistakes that the poor and the unknown makes, especially when it comes to values, morals and dealing with life.††††††††††††††† †
Know yourself and be able to control yourself.†††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††††† †
Talent and ability can catapult you into stardom, fame and fortune before you have come to grips with who you are so you can remain grounded no matter where you are.
Likewise those things can take you places where you face temptations that you feel unequal to, or you have not yet develop the level of self control to walk away from.
The way your life turns out is based on the choices you make.
The Rev. Valentine Williams is the Pastor of Transforming Life Center Church in Pineville, a motivational speaker, seminar/workshop leader, personal development coach, adjunct instructor and the author of Youth Empowered to Succeed. He is also the president of Williams Speaking and Training Services, a people development organization that conducts professional and personal development training and staff development workshops. For questions, comments or speaking engagements contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org.